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ok, my dad owns a fifty foot boat, it's wooden, and it' was in really bad condition when he got it. He got it a year ago, and we have been down every other weekend since. (except winter and bad weather, and our tagsale) This weekend, we weren't supposed to go down on Sunday, and he was supposed to call our aunt to make plans so we wouldn't have to go. When we're down at the boat, we get crammed inside a little room, with a t.v. with cable. There usually isn't any food, and we're there for 6-8 hours. We can go outside, and check the marina out, but we have looked around a billion times. Lastnight he said we were going with him, and i asked what had happened, and he said he didnt want to deal with our aunt. Then I got upset, and slammed my door, and he came in and started swearing at me. Nobody deserves that, and if i ever have kids, i would never do that. Anyway, he yelled"I'll ******* stay home tomorrow, **** you, you little spoiled brat!" I don't know what to do. I'm sick of being yelled at, and hes sick of yelling.
Yeah, i don't like hanging out with my grandma, but what have we done all summer? I don't know who's right, me or my dad?
sincerely,
M.J.

Ok I had similar situations when I was a kid, and now as an adult and as a parent I can see both sides of the situation.

First your dad was wrong to swear at you, just because you slammed the door doesn't allow him the right to lose control, he is the adult and should know better.

I think that he is probably feeling that he works hard all week that for the family and on weekends he wants to have his own downtime. I would have a talk with him if I were you and explain why you don't like going and maybe you can compromise on him going either every other weekend or only staying for 3 or 4 hours.

You are not wrong to want time with friends and doing stuff you enjoy, but he is also probably frustrated. Try and set aside a time in the week to have a calm talk with him write up what you want to say first so you don't forget anything.

Hope this helps

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