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Im 17 female I have 3 siblings. Ages 15, 13 & 4.

We fight over who does the kitchen alotttt. Yea sounds like second grade because it is. Im tired of it. I have a job & im also not home alot.

When i get home from work the kitchen is a mess & i dont clean it because its not my mess. But the next day i end up cleaning up the mess because my other two siblings ( 15, 13 yr olds ) just dont do it.

The 13 year old spends the ENTIRE day on the computer pretty much from the second she wakes up till the second she goes to bed Which usually isnt till 4-5 AM.

The 15 year just doesnt think he has to do anything & watches ttv the entire day.

I feel that i shouldnt have to clean the kitchen Or anything that was messed up when i was not at home. Do you guys agree?

And how do i get them to get up a clean something? Dont tell me talk to your parents. Trust me i do talk to my parent sbut they really don't do anything about it except say " i don't want to hear about it"


PLLLEase help me out here.

And also what age do you think it is ohk for a kid to start cleaning the kitchen.?

Honestly the best thing you could do is not do it for them. If they just don't do it then it stays a mess the reason they don't do it now is because they know that you will. If you leave it for them to clean up eventually they will do it I would also simply tell both of them that you will not be doing it anymore, you will only clean your own mess and no one elses. The reason your parents don't want to hear it is because they are not the ones having to clean when they start to realize that its not being done they should start to come down on your lazy siblings.

As for what age a kid should start any chore I firmly believe that it should be young, I mean my nephew already makes his bed and room at 6 and I started the kitchen at 8 or 9 so They are well old enough to be doing it!!

Hope this helps Just be strong and walk away from the mess!!!

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