Hi,
For a long time in my life I've felt like people just can't tell me the truth about things. Whether it's my family, friends, people at businesses, or just some random person I meet on the street. I feel like everyone is afraid to tell me the truth because they either think I can't handle it or I'll get angry and upset. Do they feel ashamed to admit something to me? I can handle it when I'm told the raw truth about something, even if it's something that could potentially hurt me. But perhaps I'm not showing people that I want to hear the truth. Is there a way I can let people know that they can be honest with me and I'm not going to be angry with them if they are? Also how do I let them know without saying "I think you are lying. Go on, tell me the truth".
Any kind of remotely helpful advice would be apreaciated. Thanks!
If you feel like someone isn't giving you the whole truth, you should be straight up and ask them to be totally honest, but don't say something like, "You're lying." Phrase it as a question, not an accusation, like, "Are you telling me the complete truth?" Explain to the person that sometimes you feel that he or she isn't being honest with you, and that you would rather know the truth. But if the person you're speaking to insists that they aren't lying, then you have to accept that. It is possible that they are being honest.
I hope I've helped :)
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