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I'm a single, Modern Orthodox, Jewish man.
I live in Ellington CT and I'm currently the Co-President of my synagogue, Congregation Knesseth Israel.
I work as a paramedic for the Ambulance Service of Manchester, a commercial ambulance service that does both emergencies and routine transports throughout the region.
In addition to my Paramedic License, I have a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
I enjoy Bicycling, Reading (Sci-Fi/Fantasy, Biographies, History), Blogging, Watching Movies on DVD (Yeah Netflix!), and meeting people.
I'm looking for that proverbial nice Jewish girl who isn't intimidated by someone who's observant. I want to settle down and raise a nice, observant family.
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my friends are soo mean to people. like, there mean to like people in our group too! who they call their best friends. Like, ok.. we are the popular group in school, i go to a catholic school, so its small. so yeah, were the popular ones, & so like nobody likes the 2 of them. They like think there all great bc they belong to a country club, & have a big house. But, i have just as big of a house & belong to a country club, & i dont act like them at all. they get mad, if like me & my best friend, dont invite them to the mall. like they always cause drama, & basically me & my friends are sick of them.. how do we get rid of them? .. it will be our last year at our school, so we dont want them to ruin it.
Well, as a friend, you have an obligation to try to help them before you just dump the relationship.
You only wrote about how you're trying to leave them out of your activities, which is a very hurtful thing to do to a friend. It's no wonder why they get angry with you.
Have you ever sat down with any of them individually and had a heart to heart talk with them about their behavior?
Sometimes people don't know they're doing anything wrong or offensive until a TRUE friend sits down with them and tells them about it.
You should tell them that you think they're acting elitist and snobbish and that you don't like to be with them when they act like that.
If you do this it will either make them even angrier and they'll stop being your friends (which is basically what you said you wanted in your question) or they'll improve their behavior and they'll be your good friends again- which I think would be a much better result.
Either way, you'll have the satisfaction of having done the right thing.
Best wishes.
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yeah we tried to talk to them, even ended up telling our teachers & parents, thats how bad it was,, & in a week they were back to there same ways.
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