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Hello All,
I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.

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Question #1 You asked if my mom was in the service area.

I guess you could call it that (shes teaches horseback riding, you also answered my question that was in the normal pool)

#2 My relationship with my mom is okay. i resent that she treats her coustomers different then me she is always so cherry around them and everyone says oh you are so lucky you have such a nice my ( which i do) but it is so different from home and the bran and that has always bugged me.

#3 No i have never had this "obbsession" with a man before. but when it does happen its this is what goes on in my head
Oh my god i have to get up and see ____ i cant wait and i just get soooo overly happy.

hope that helps and dont worry, if i can answer anything else i would love to [=

OK well I think I was right with my first assessment, you are looking for the relationship in other women that you with you had with your mother.

It's ok to be attached to other women but not to try and create a relationship with them that would serve to make you feel like you had a better mom. I understand why your mom acts differently from her point of she must feel like she is always "on" because she works where she lives and the only person she can be "off" with is you and your sister.

Back to your problem, I think that you should talk to your mom and say that you understand why she acts differently but that you feel that sometimes she puts the customers ahead of you and that hurts.

Secondly I would maybe look into getting a male counsellor, simply because these issues wouldn't arise and because they would be able to help you more, without you feeling so attached. I think that you should only spend short amount of time with older women for a while at least so as to avoid this.

If it would help you you can email me anytime and I will help you the best I can, this is what I actually do for a living.

Let me know what you think.

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(Rating: 5) i am sure your right, but i am soo confused
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