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My best friend is really pretty and always gets guys. Yesterday me & here were hanging out with 3 guys and one of them liked her and had his arm around her and the other one was pretty much all over her and sent her a message on myspace that night that said, "Youre really pretty. We should hang out soon - you me and dave." And he totally didnt include me. I asked her if I seemed weird/annoying because I usually act ditzy around guys and she said that I did great and that I was not ditzy at ALL. If I was so good, why arent these guys giving me the time of day?? I know Im a really jealous person and Ive already talked to my mom and best friend about how I feel about the situation. What do I do :( Ive never had a boyfriend and its starting to bother me because every guy likes my best friend.. (link)
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My best friend is a model - honest-to-God. She's a smart, funny, kind, sweet, statuesque classic beauty who has literally turned heads a million times. Me? I'm a cruel, vindictive, non-intelligent, corny, mean, short, fat dumpling of a girl who's always in a foul mood. Everywhere we go, I'm pretty much in the background. I've never even had a boy LOOK at me, even when she wasn't around. Yet, it doesn't faze me. I know that sounds like a line, but it's true - I just don't care and never did care, coz you know what? There must be something okay about me if I still have her a best friend. Guys come in all styles - some will be attracted to looks, some to brains, some to both, some to other things. There's no *one* thing that will do it for each and every guy - your problem is, you've only met guys who are attracted to your friend. Trust me, there will be guys who are attracted to your brand of personality. It's all right to be jealous, but what I really think you're feeling is insecurity. You're thinking that what you are isn't good enough - and that's just not true. Did you ever think that perhaps guys who are drawn to you wouldn't be drawn to your best friend? Vice versa then. You can be bothered, you can be jealous - and it's hard, but DON'T let it bother you. One day soon, a great guy will come along who only has eyes for you. He won't give a care about any other girl. Just think of it this way: a lot of people like chocolate ice cream, but not every single human being on earth, just a lot. There will be some people who like licorice and you're licorice. Give it time and in the meanwhile, be thankful you have such a caring friend. Such a great friendship is not something to take lightly. Cherish it; it's worth more than ANY guy.
No problem, glad to have been of help. :)
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aw. your answer was amazing & definitely the best. thanks so much!
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