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Hello All, I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.
I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)
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Dear Sassysara,
I am a fourteen year old gir (I am going to be a freshmen) and I have Cerebral Palsy (it greatly affects how I walk). I have never had a boyfriend. I always wonder weather it is because of my CP, or if I am just a person who does deserve a love life. You could say I am an easy person to get along with, and I have an okay sense of humor. But, its seems that guys are repulsed by me. I really want a boyfriend and someone to like me. I really don't know what to do.
Any comments you have would be really great!
Of course you deserve a love life! I have worked in highschools with kids who have had CP in varying degrees of disablity. I have seen varying degrees of relationships from none to me asking kids to please save the tonsil hockey for later! I personally did not have my first boyfriend until I was 16, it varies for every one. I think that you need to learn how to love yourself (yes I know that sounds corny) but truly learn to respect yourself and know that any guy who dates you is lucky to have you. At this stage in your life it is more important to surround yourself with good friends who will stand by you at all times.
Since I know you really want a boyfriend I will impart this to you, most of the guys who I have dated or who my friends have dated have liked them initially based not mostly on looks but on personality especially sense of humour! A good tool that alot of guys admire is sarcasm, if you can master being funny without insulting others you are 10 steps ahead of your peers.
If you need to talk some more, or have more questions please feel free to ask!
Hope I helped.
Sara
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! You are deffinitly one of the best out there!