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I'm a single, Modern Orthodox, Jewish man.
I live in Ellington CT and I'm currently the Co-President of my synagogue, Congregation Knesseth Israel.
I work as a paramedic for the Ambulance Service of Manchester, a commercial ambulance service that does both emergencies and routine transports throughout the region.
In addition to my Paramedic License, I have a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
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I have to cousins and their parents are seperated. Both of their parents are alcoholics. They live with their mother, who treats them unkindly. One of my cousins, Rachel, she's always upset and crying because of my aunt. My other cousin, Matt, he will argue with my aunt unlike rachel but he ends up angry and upset also. They refuse to admit that my aunt has a problem. Rachel and Matt do EVERYTHING! They washes the dishes, does the laundry, cooks every meal, cleans the windows, vacuums, dusts, and many other things while my aunt, she just sits there drunk, while screaming at them and making fun of them! Rachel is too scared to argue with my aunt about doing these things. Matt argues every now and then but not a lot. He also has always been very pale and thin because he is so upset all the time. They won't talk to anyone about this. They are scared of their own mother! I don't know what I can say to them to help them through this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say?
It may be that they're afraid to say anything because they're scared they'll end up with their father, whom you also describe as an alcoholic. They're also likely scared of what may happen to their mother, who is still their mother despite everything.
You didn't mention their ages, but this does seem like a clear case of neglect and abuse. You should make the situation known to an adult like a teacher. They could then call your state's Children Protective Services unit to investigate.
This doesn't automatically mean that they'll be taken away and put into foster care or something like that, but you aunt may be ordered to get treatment for her alcoholism and to take parenting classes.
Good luck and be strong. I know you can do the right thing for your cousins.
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