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I am 15 years old and so is my boyfriend. There is this girl that he talks to that has been his friend for years. They both say that they are brother and sister type friends. I believe them but I have really big jealousy issues. This girl is skinnier than I, and prettier. I recently got into a fight with my boyfriend because when he went to his friends house she showed up. I ignored his calls and everything. Well, this girl Instant Messaged me asking me if he could go to San Francisco with her tomorrow to hang out with her and her mother because it is her birthday and she has no one else to go with and doesn't want to go alone. I want to feel sad and just cry thinking about. But they're just friends, right? Should I just let him go and face my jealousy and see if it helps me get over it? Or should I put my foot down and object of the whole thing?

Well first off - has either of them shown any sign that they are more than just friends? If so, that's when you should start worrying. But if not, then there's no need to. I know if I was in your shoes, I would be jealous & suspicious too, but that's just because some people aren't too secure in their relationship. They haven't established that solid foundation of trust. Before I get to that, you have to realize she was nice enough to ask you if you were okay with it. Obviously, she is concerned enough to make sure it didn't offend you or give you any ideas when she planned to drag along your boyfriend to California. I know deep down you want to hang on to him & keep him from going, but you can't be too controlling. It'll just show your boyfriend that you're insecure (true or not) & that you don't trust him. You should trust him enough to know that he wouldn't cheat on you. & if you can't do that, then your relationship lacks trust; without it, it is nothing.

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