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Hey everyone.
I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.
Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.
I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.
My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.
Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.
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Hi, I wouldn't say it was a horrible thing myself. You are both young and get on well.
You are old enough now to decide who you want to date and why and your also old enough to think about the consequences of your decisions. Your parents have told you their opinions but the choice is yours. Good reasons for continuing with the relationship are:
1. You like each others qualities
2. You both enjoy each others company
3. You get on really well
4. Your both happy and positive about it
5. You are both getting what you want out of it which is love, friendship and fun and happiness
If you both agree to these 5 things, then why shouldn't you be in the relationship? You are both still young, it's not as though he's 45 and your 17 if you know what I mean. Remember people have opinions negative and positive but it's the decision that counts. Daniel.
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