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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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I think that maybe you should talk to thm and say how you feel that you can't gain the trust that you deserve from them and that yo are really hurting. I mean if your parents are that much over-protective then you might not even be able to like kiss or something then your boyfrend might dump you because you can't do nothing more than a kiss to him and I think he knows that he can not gain their trut either. I don't think you can get rid of overprotectivness I just think that you can help the situation by asking them to trust you and that you won't let them down if they give you a chance. Maybe they aren't overprotective maybe they are just doing it for your own good. But my first suggestion is to ask them why they don't trust you and say that it really hurts your feelings. GooD LucK!!
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thanks. but i told them that. & my boyfriend would never dump me. we're basically engaged so yea.
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