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How do I better my social skills?
I'm pretty shy and I have a fear that people are always judging me which makes it hard for me to approach new people and talk to them and make new friends.
Also its hard to show to a boy I have interest in him, when its so difficult for me to start a conversation with him or have small talk.
It seems like the only time I'm really social and talkative to people I don't really know is after I've had a few drinks.
So how do I over come my shyness and insecurities so I can meet new people and be comfortable around them? (link)
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Hi, there is only one way that you can talk to people. And that's to just do it. To get a boyfriend or just to talk, you've got to create the opportunity. In other words you've got to start a conversation, which I call creating the opportunity. Another way is to just wait around for people to talk to you, but it won't get you very far really. When your talking to someone remember these 3 tips:
1. Compliments
2. Open questions
3. Small talk
It is difficult, believe me, but the more you interact and socialize the less shy you become. The first move though is to say something like "hi, it's a nice day today isn't it?". It sounds to me as though you want a boyfriend. If you just wanted to be friendly then say a little hi and smile. Your young and have got everything to gain and little to lose. If your old enough you could go to a night club and chat men up there. The night club is a really good place to talk and you have lets say "high possibility" of talking to someone. Put it mathematically:
Confidence + Create opportunity = conversation
Thats all you've got to do. If it doesn't go the way you want the first time, then try again. You will meet someone one day and you will do anything you can to have him. If you want to flirt then just talk to a guy and smile alot and give him a wink. Another good way to show your interested is by tossing your hair back and really look interested and smile heaps. I'm sure you have a nice smile. Daniel.
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thanks for giving example's and such. that helped alot.
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