I have a lot of life experience and a background in education and some counselling. The following are quotes from friends and family regarding advice I have given them in the past:
"You are so direct and to the point but not harsh."
"You have a lot of wisdom."
"You always know how to cut right to the heart of the matter."
I believe that I tell it like it is but I am also senstive to other's feelings and I am able to see things from various perspectives. Hopefully, I can help you too.
Gender: Female
Member Since: June 26, 2006
Answers: 28
Last Update: September 22, 2006
Visitors: 6772
Main Categories:
Families
Love Life
Job Searches
View All
|
| |
|
Is coming to visit me & my family in the next 2 days. I recently heard about something he did to my older sister & now I'm really scared of him. He deserves to go to jail. He sexually harrassed my sister when she was around 3 years old and when she was in 3rd grade. Please help me. idk what to do im soo scaredd. (link)
|
Hi again,
Thank you for writing me back with more information. I got the impression that your parents don't know about what your grandpa did. Again, I cannot stress enough the importance of telling them as soon as possible. My best guess is that your parents will want to protect all of you. If nobody tells on your grandpa then he will actually be the person who is getting protected. How backward is that? As I said earlier, typically sex offenders will do it again. It is especially imortant that he not be around any of you as one of you is only 3 and is not able to protect herself; this is the age your other sister was when he abused her.
If for some reason, you do not feel safe telling your parents then I would suggest that you and your sister tell another adult, preferably a trusted family member or school counsellor. You can always call your local police and ask them for the number of Child Protective Services in your area.
I so hope that you open up this family secret so you and your sisters get the protection you deserve. You are all too young to be dealing with this on your own. It is also my belief that by exposing your Grandpa, you will be helping to keep other girls(including your baby sister) safe in the future.
Again, feel free to keep me posted.
You didn't say how you heard about what your grandpa did but if you are unsure of the accuracy, please dig further(I suggest talking to your sister yourslef if you havn't yet, unless she is still little).
I am also not sure if you have talked to your parents about this or if they know. If not, it is very important that you go to them immediately. Under no circumstances should your grandpa have access to your sister or you or any other child, in my opinion. Unfortunaltey, these kinds of people tend to repeat their actions and it is far too risky for children to be exposed to them.
I sincerely hope that your parents will do the right thing for your family and press charges against your grandpa, if they haven't done so yet. You and your sister should not be living in fear over this; you deserve to be protected. It is also my sincere hope that your sister has received some type of tramau concelling to help her deal with all of this.
If the above measures have not been taken, perhaps, you could show this email to your parents. I work with children in my job and am familiar with how damaging sexual abuse can be to the lives of children.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please feel free to write me back.
|
|
Rating: 5
| |
well my sister told me she is 14 now and he is coming back his wife doesnt even know shes a normal kid. but im now scared for my baby sister b/c she is 3 years old now. he might do the same to me im 13.
|
|