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see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much


and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance

Oh my gosh. Well, there's a problem really needing to be solved. Try this: have a little girl's night with your friend at your house. Get ice cream and happy, funny (no sad/romantic/sappy movies!!!) movies. When you're both having fun and relaxed, ease into the topic slowly. Unless she brings it up first, then go along slowly. It might be better to do it around the time when you're about to go to sleep. It will be easier because you're going to be more loose. Just say, "You know when I told you that ----- had cancer, well I've just been feeling----. I don't really talk about my feelings much, but I just really needed to get it out and....." Try and let it flow as much as you can without having to think about it. When you're finished, you'll feel like a great weight's been lifted off you.

Hope I helped!

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