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I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


advice

i don't know exactly what i'm asking. & i don't know if anyone will be able to help. but i do need help. and it'd be appreciated if you do try.

i have depression, in addition, i'm most likely the shyest person on planet earth. i don't have too many friends because of both of these. in feel really insecure about my social life as well as myself. each time i attend school i feel like everyone's judging me & in a terrible way. In a way, i'm scared to show up to school. the idea of it really scares me. i psyche myself out for it. each day i think i'll go to school, but i get ready in the morning, can't find the right thing to wear & break down. See, i haven't exactly been to school for two weeks now. usually my dad would make me go to school; but in a sense he's given up. & i have to. each day i don't show up for school i realize that it will be harder to go back. but i can't bring myself to go. i haven't been in contact with friends in days & feel like i'll use the few i have, and i'm in the proccess of doing so. i don't know why i feel so bad, and i don't know why school is so scary for me. i want to feel better & be better but i'm doing nothing to helo myself.

so i guess i'm asking a few things.
1. why is it that school is scary to me?
2. how can i make it less scary?
3. ... just any advice is what im looking for. thought - or anything. just ideas as to what i can do.

... just ideas as to what i NEED to do. 5's for anyone who bothered reading with a sensible response. xx

i used to have this problem too so i really feel for you and understand how hard it is for you.
I know it sounds the obvious thing to say but talk to your friends, even if you just do it one on one so it's less scary. maybe invite a friend round for tea or just talk on the phone and explain to them exactly how you are feeling, how panicy you get about going to school and how much it is upsetting you. Tell them you want to go back but you need their support and understanding so they can make you feel more at ease when you are there and take care of you, you might not want to say "i need you to take care of me" though, just make sure they understand how important it is that you get their support.

You also need to go into school with your
parent(s)or they go and you stay at home, they need to talk to your head teacher or head of year, and explain to them your worries and how frightend you are of school and see what can be done to make things as easy as possible for you.
This could include your teachers being aware of your situation and keep a close eye on you, you may be given a support teacher who can sit in lessons with you, you may be able to have a friend sit with you, or even attend school but dont go to the class but just sit in a different classroom (this is what i did in my sports studies class because i was so uncomfortable with all the horrible loud people in there).

There is a thing called school phobia and you may not be the only student in your school suffering with this, your teachers need to be aware.
My boyfriend who was a student teacher had a booklet given to him by the school which in it listen the names of some pupils and what phobias they had that needed accomodating to, one of them was school phobia. So your school should have a policy and a way to deal with this.

Have a think what would make school easier for you and then see if you, your parents and your teachers can come up with a plan to get you back into school and feeling more at ease.

love chakra x

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(Rating: 5) thank you. i really do thank you for helping.
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