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Hello!!!! I was just going through random questions, and I noticed that you answered someones question about whether or not long distance relationships work. I thought it was really weird because I am a 16/f and I live in Parma, Ohio. I am in love with this kid who lives in Minnesota and hes 15 years old. I really wanna go out with him, but we've already discussed it and he's not ready for that. I already tried getting him to go out with me and that didn't work out too well, because now he likes me less than before. Anyway, we've been talking for about a year already you could say. I talk to him and his mom allllll the time. I talk to him on the internet every single day, and I used to talk on the phone with him every night. We'd stay up till 6:00 in the morning every night!! We haven't been talking on the phone much cuz his grades were dropping since he was always tired in school from talking to me. He says during the summer we'll have a lot more time to talk. I'm supposed to be going to visit him for a week or a little longer in July for the first time, and I'm really nervous. I really really want him to like me, so he thinks we can be more than friends soon. I don't want him to see me as just a friend. That would kill me, because even though I haven't met him, I feel like I know him from talking to him so much. I would love to be with this kid forever, and I'm always so worried he's gonna get a girlfriend someday. He's a virgin just like me, and he's told me he would save his virginity for me. I also told him the same. I was going to move to Minnesota if I liked it there when I turn 18 or wait just a little longer. It sucks being so far away from him, but we've been through so many arguments. I feel like we can get through anything because we've always fixed our problems. I'm a really negative person and always think bad things might happen, so I'd like to know how I can stay positive about all this? If I have to end up getting over him I have no clue what I'll do. It'll take me forever to get over him because I get so attached to people. I was hoping you could just tell me a bit about your relationship with the person from Ohio, so I could see how that's working out. Everyone tells me that long distance relationships cannot work out on matter what you do, and I've finally found someone on here who thinks they can. I've seen pictures of this kid before, and I think he's so gorgeous! I've also seen his brother and his mom. He hasn't seen any pics of me, but his mom has and she thinks I'm pretty. She is really looking forward to meeting me and I wanna make a great impression. I want them to want me to go there and visit them again. I'd be willing to go visit them every summer if they wanted, and I'd also visit them on some holidays. His mom has already told me if I were old enough she would let me move there now. It sucks I'm not :-( I just feel like this is the best guy I've ever met. He bought me a blankey from the disney store website over the internet for Christmas! It was so sweet, and it was a Finding Nemo one. He also sent me his hoodie that he wore every day, because I wanted something of his so I'd always remember him. His mom made me a scarf, and gave me a gift card to a book store. I sent him a video game he really wanted for Christmas, and I got his mom a candle and this air fresher thing. I also made them both cards myself. They loved their gifts. It's driving me crazy because I want this kid really bad, but I don't wanna rush him again. I want him to ask me out when he really wants me so I know he likes me a lot. I feel like if I rush into it it'll end quicker. I wanna be with him for a really long time. I'm just hoping you take the time to read all of this!! If you do I would really appreciate it. It probably is really confusing, but I'm trying to explain the best way I can. I'd like you to read this if you can, and tell me anything you'd like to about long distance relationships. I'm really depressed right now and I'd just like to try to make myself feel better. If you'd ever like to chat I would keep in touch with you, and I'll let you know what goes on with this. I'm really sorry this is so long! I haven't talked to anyone about this in so long, so I had to tell someone. I hope your not mad! :-) I really appreciate it! If you can, answer pretty soon. If I have any Sorry I didn't really make that shorter, and I also didn't ask many questions. I really need help here on everything. (link)
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hey kimmy i'm back :-) k before i get started, i need to make some stuff clear so this all makes sense. my name is emily as you know. i'm a sophomore..16 in july. i live in rochester and my boyfriend lives in aurora. his real name is michael but i NEVER call him that unless i'm mad at him. i call him whoami (whoa-me) but its a semi-long story as to why so i'll just leave it at that haha :-) so anyways...thats just a little bit of clarification on like..everything. oh hey. whats your guys name? and where does he live?
alright, so now heres my take on all this. first of all, you've got one thing i definitly DONT! and thats his moms approval! it sounds like she lovessssss you. NO! like MORE then loves! if she would honestly want you to move there to be closer to them, you KNOW its a big deal! and the fact that you got her a present is probably the CUTEST thing in the entire world! next to of course, you and him exchanging gifts! like that really makes me happy i'm not gonna lie :-) but wait a minute..why hasnt he seen a picture of you? my bf has seriously seen over 200 of me, plus video clips and stuff. whats the deal here? isnt he like BEGGING to see some?
another thing..i know what its like to want him as more than a friend. since probably the second week of ever talking to whoami, i fell for him. people accused me of it all the time, and him too but i denied it foreverrrrr. i had a LOT of feelings for him though, i just kept it all inside because i knew he liked other girls and i didnt want to be rejected. he went out with three girls by the time he admitted his feelings for me too. that was probably one of the hardest times in my life. i CONSTANTLY felt sick to my stomach knowing that he was all i ever thought about but she was all HE could think about. because of that, i felt reallyyyyy stupid for being only the friend so i started getting down on myself but like i kinda mentioned this morning... guys are more attracted to happy girls. when i was depressed, we didnt talk as much which made me even MORE upset. the best thing i can say is just try your HARDEST to have a good attitude about everything. i got lucky. i got my man. and we're gonna be together forever. i'm soooooooooo in love with him. like its seriously ridiculous. and i'm not some stupid naive little girl. i KNOW this is love. he's coming to see me this summer. our first time meeting too..i'm B E Y O N D excited!
i want to know more about what yor guys thinks about all this. he said he would save his virginity for you? because its hard to believe he would do that but yet, not want to go out with you. i was hesitant to start going out with whoami though, because of what my friends would think. it obviouslyyy sounds really bad like "yeah my boyfriend..i've never met him" so actually. only my 2 best friends know. and NO ONE else! i didnt even tell them until 8 months in! so that could be why he doesnt want to. hes just worried how it will come across to other people although deep down he has major feelings for you. also, its a big committment if you claim to be in love with him, or maybe hes in love with you and is just scared? remember..this is a GUY we're talking about. they dont usually make a whole lotta sense. so how bout you just talk to him. like a genuine talk. its a pretty serious topic. especially to you but try to make it calm and relaxed, kinda like you're just "bringing it up". find out exactly what he wants AND his reasons behind it. thats a big thing to understand... where hes coming from. after you do all that, talk to me again. i really do wanna know how everything goes. my sn is mlesweetie0316. talk to me ANYTIME and feel free to ask questions. i've been in your EXACT same position :-)
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Thank you sooooo much! I'm so happy I got to tell you all about this. I wanna answer everything you just asked in this, so I'm gonna go back and figure out what I need to let you know. It's complicating lol. I really appreciate everything your helping me with. It's helping me feel better. Is it okay if I maybe IM you sometime? I'm going to IM you sometime if you'd like me to. I'm always on, but you mentioned you don't always come on. I hope you don't forget who I am! :-)
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