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My godmother (who is actually younger than I) asked my fiance to be her baby's godfather. I knew that her other child's godmother was her sister-in-law. Well, my godmother was with us at his birthday party and she told him that her orginal choice had turned him down. And then her proceeded to ask him in front of me if her second choice (a close friend of ours) should be god mother. I was so upset that it was all I could do to not cry at the table.
He said that she needed to pray about it and talk to Father. So essentially, he didn't bring me up either, but knew I was visibly upset. He tried to talk about it with me after the party, but it just made me cry...a lot.
What is wrong with me? I can't believe I am acting so selfishly. I don't want to beg to be godmother, I don't want to tell my fiance that he can't be godfather. I asked her in general why she wouldn't pick a couple. She said she wanted someone loving and nurturing and motherly. And apparently I am chopped liver. I shouldn't have said anything. I should have just gone to the bathroom.
So now I am going to have to go to the Baptism and not cry. It is going to be one of the hardest things ever.
I don't know what to say to her, but she is helping me with my wedding. And I cannot feel this way for any more time. It hurts very badly. I really wish she hadn't brought it up in front of me.
If this seems a little weird, it gets better. Her husband is also my fiance's godson (he joined the church as an adult like I did). So we got some serious oddness going on. (link)
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She can choose whoever she wants. It doesn't have to be a couple, and she probably just wasn't thinking when she was talking about it in front of you. Maybe she really wanted the opinion of you and your fiance/friends. Just because she didn't ask you doesn't mean that she doesn't think you are good enough, I really think that you are being overly sensitive about this. Why does it mean so much to you that YOU be the godmother? If you assumed you were because you are her closest female friends then you should be close enough to talk to her about it. If you aren't close enough to be comfortable bringing this up, then you probably aren't close enough to be the godmother to begin with. It sounds like you are really making a mountain out of a molehill, I'm not trying to be rude but this isn't all about you, you know?
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Rating: 5
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I am not trying to make it about me. I realize that she is trying to do the best for her child, but I think she was being insensitive.
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