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Hi everyone and welcome to my advice column! My name is Jessica. This is me in Barcelona on the top of La Sagrada Familia which is a very famous cathedral designed by Antoni Gaudi.

I found out about Advicenators by mistake on google but I glad I stumbled upon it it because I love helping people, which naturally I use as a Spanish Teacher. If you have a problem and I can relate to it in anyway I will try to answer it to the best of my ability. Never hesitate to ask me a question, I hope I can help!

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okay well. i`m 13/f and have never had a boyfriend. i don`t wanna be mean, but even some pretty ugly girls in my grade have boyfriends. and i want one..that i like. i dont just want one because its "cool". i want someone to like me for who i am and such. i dont know ? i guess what i`m asking is how do you think i can get one and find someone who likes me ? i`m athletic, pretty tall, outgoing, skinny, and nice. and i don`t know what else i shoud do ? please give me some advice -- some real advice and if your just going to bad talk, dont even bother..thanks

Ok, first the kind of boyfriend you want won't just show up because you feel ready for a boyfriend. All the qualities you listed about yourself are external qualities... A boyfriend who likes you for you won't show up until you know who you are... You might say well I know who I am... but let's face it there are 50 year olds who still don't fully know who they are...

This is the advice part...
Don't wait for a boy, find out what you love in life... (and I am not talking about boys or clothes or make-up) I'm talking about what in this world makes you excited and want to do good things in this world. This may take years, and it may even change throughout your life. This is the secret nobody tells you: If you focus on something you love doing, that fills your soul everything else falls into place. The boy that you want, the one that loves you for you, will show up and and the best part is that you will be ready for that kind of boy. Trust me you are not ready for that boy until you fully know yourself.

Oh one more secret: The girls who seem to have it all right now (the ones with boyfriends, kissing...and anything else) most probably are caught up in the moment, and in a few years all the boys will be board and over them. In a few years the boys that are worth anything will want someone who is cool enough to actually have a conversation, and who is interesting enough to hold their attention for more than just a few months.

Respect yourself, and other people will...
You will that yourself for following a definite path when you get to be in your twenties and you're sorta kinda confused of what to with your life. You'll be a better person and find better people!
Good Luck!

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