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Age: 23
Member Since: April 16, 2006
Answers: 59
Last Update: April 29, 2006
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My life has been sucking. I was rapped, my boyfriends have been treating me like dirt, i had to get a job (14/f) because my crackhead (litteraly.) parents are too stupid (litteraly, neither went to college=hard way to find jobs) to get jobs and my dad is an alcoholic who beats me over little things such as my weight (a lil chubby), my grades (as and bs)and having friends and going out. so i decided to do drugs. my friend nick and i decided to go get the ingredients from the CVS down the street. then we did it. and we cant stop, i mean i dont remember a think while im high and i love it but one time i slept at nicks house because i was too high to remember where and what was happening and i woke up and tried waking nick up and he wouldnt wake up, eventually he did but it was a real scare! i went from doing it so much in one week to..only a lot in a month (there was some of a difference) and im just not sure what to do..my family hates me and treats me like an outcast and i hate it..i wanna runaway..but i REALLY wanna stop all the bad things im doing, im going to parties, having sex and drinking/doing drugs. i wanna stop..but im already so into it i cant stop..PLEASE HELP ME!!NO ONE ELSE WILL!! (link)
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What you need is professional help. Get help from the social department. It is GREAT that you want to change your life and make it a better one. And my dear, there are a lot of people out there who cares. They WILL help you.
It is not going to be easy to start all over again. First talk it out with the social worker. They will come up with a lot of solutions.
Talking to your parents about how you feel and why you did what you did in the past helps. If they just won't listen to you, get the social worker to talk to them.
Maybe both you and Nick would want to help each other out of this "mess". If he feels and thinks the same way, the both of you can change your lifes together. If not, chances are, he is a bad influence to you. You can still befriend him, no problem with that. BUT provided you DO NOT indulge in "activities" like you did before. You are only 14! There's a whole lot of life in front of you. One friend less for a better life with a loving family.
And as for your parents, they didn't choose to be not educated. And i think it is wrong for you to call them "stupid". THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS. They might have told you before, "It is attitudes like yours that got you into trouble in the first place." REMEMBER... THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS!! We cannot choose who our parents are going to be or what they may be. As children to our parents, we need to learn to understand them. Consider what they may be thinking. And parents DO NOT hate their children.
Anger and frustration is the cause of resentment. Your parents are most probably angry at themselves and not you. If they really didn't care about you, i don't think they would even spend the time monitoring your studies and noticing that you are not doing well. Age is not really the matter, but do you think you deserve this kind of freedom (going out and indulging in "activities")??
Talk things out with your parents. I had very protective parents too when i was about your age. I resented them for keeping me "locked up" but as i grew up i learn to understand and listen to their reasoning.
No matter how stubborn parents may be, you will STILL be their daughter! No matter how much wrong you've done, you are STILL their daughter.
I don't want to sound like i'm preaching but,
"Children are gifts from GOD, care for them, nurture them and see them grow"
"Parents are gifts from GOD, love them, respect them, care for them and thank them for everything no matter how big/ small"
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wow, i never thought of it that way
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