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Hi! Yes, this is another relationship question... but it is different, so stay with me! Just read over my situation and tell me what you think! I'm 20/f by the way! Thanks! :)

When I was a senior in high school I met a guy, and we hit it off really well and ended up in a 2 year relationship. We broke up at the beginning of my 2nd year of college because we began to fight a good bit. We fought because I wanted to experience the single college life, and he was a year older than me, but not in college, and didn't know what he wanted to do with his life. We stopped talking for 4 months, and it was very hard at first but we both got over it after we cut off all contact. In December he left for the Army, and he called me to tell me. I wrote him a letter, and he called me. 4 months later, we now talk on the phone all the time. He is currently stationed about 700 miles from me, and is getting deported overseas soon. But our feelings for one another have come back in full swing now that we talk all the time. The differences we had are no longer there. We always say how we miss one another and this and that... but we both know that a long distance relationship for the next 4 years while he's in the army is unrealistic.

So basically our plan is to contunue talking, and emailing, and he will come home and visit as much as he can... and when he is home we will basically be together all the time, have sex... basically act like a couple. We can both see each other married in a couple of years, but do you think this is a good idea? We really care for each other, but is this worth it if it's going to make our lives so much harder? I mean it will be so hard having to see him for a few days, and then watching him leave for months. Do you think it is a good idea, or do you think cutting off all contact and taking the "easy way out" would be better? What would be the best thing for us? I appreciate your opinions... thank you!

One thing you need to remember is that you two are not spending time together. When you don't have the option to see each other very much, the problems that used to be there don't present themselves as much. Not to say that they're not there anymore, I don't know anything about how your relationship REALLY is. I'm just saying, it's one thing to keep in mind.

Love sees no boundaries. This is going to be REALLY difficult for the both of you. It's so hard to maintain a long distance relationship and hardly be able to see each other, but it's also a good test of how strong your relationship is/can be. Don't take the easy way out if your feelings are that strong. Somewhere down the line, you'll regret it. Everything deserves at least one chance. Everyone needs to 'know'. So find out :) It might work, it might not, but if you don't try, you'll never know. I wish I'd take my own advice. I'm kicking myself in the butt for not doing what you want to do. Don't make the same mistake. Good luck

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