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I’ve been having issues with my parents lately. I have a different problem for each of them. I guess this is a two-part question.
In order to fully understand my situation, I think a little background information is required . . .

My parents met one another while they were in highschool. They started dating soon after and eventually my mother ended up pregnant with me at the age of seventeen. It was completely unexpected and unplanned - I was a ‘surprise’, if you will. At the time, my grandmother was a very traditional woman. The idea of premarital children just didn’t sit well with her. She managed to convince my parents that marriage was their only option. They married three months after I was born.
Because my father came from a wealthier family, he graduated from highschool and was able to attend university. My mother, on the other hand, dropped out of highschool four months before her graduation so she could get a full-time job in order to support me and father while he was in school.
It’s not really a surprise that my parents are divorced now, they have been since I was five. But that’s not the issue. I live with my mother and stepfather now and she often talks about how she wishes she hadn’t been so careless when she was younger. She’s always warning me not to ‘throw away’ my youth like she did.
I know she doesn’t mean it, but sometimes I feel as though she resents me. I can’t help but think about how much better her life could have been had she not had me at such a young age. I know this is all in the past, and what’s happened cannot be changed but I would just like to know how I can get past this feeling of “I ruined my mother’s life”. I'd like to be able to stop feeling like a mistake.
Any and all advice is welcome =]

And that’s just my mother. . .
Now for part two - my father.

Like I mentioned before, my parents got married and then divorced at a fairly young age. I live with my mother so I only see my father once a month, if that. I wouldn’t exactly say we’re close . . .
Anyways, a few days ago, my mother told me a story about my father that really disturbed me. She told me that three days before their wedding, at his bachelor party, my dad had cheated on her. And even though she knew about it, she still married him. I was completely shocked when I heard this. I can’t help but be angry at my father. He doesn’t know that I know about this yet, but I would really like to confront him about it. I’ve talked to my mom about it and she doesn’t want me to say anything to him. She suggested that I just let it go. However I know that I won’t be able to do that. To me, this isn’t something I can just forget about. I would like some sort explanation from my father, even though I know he wont have one for me.
I’m supposed to have dinner at his house Monday night and I plan on confronting him then. My only problem is that I don’t know how I should go about this.

Any suggestions or any advice whatsoever would be greatly appreciated =]

Sorry this is so long =/

Well part one of your question is simple. When you were born. You were born for a reason. See you might not be a religious person I don’t really no but I am. And I always thought I was kind of a mistake to. But I realized that I have helped people in the past. And if you have ever helped someone than you no that you and that person feel good after word. Well we were all born for a reason. And without you that one person that you helped would of hurt longer. Your parents did not make a mistake by having you. They made a mistake telling you that you were there mistake.

Part two if were you I would plan it out write it down talk to him about how your mom was telling you something about the past and then bring it up make sure you tell him that you will always love him that will make it easier for him to tell. You

I want you to no that people do make mistakes but when it comes to childbirth there is never a mistake in that.

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(Rating: 5) They've never once actually said that I was mistake, but that's just the general feeling I get sometimes.

Thank-you for your advice =]
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