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Q: I don’t really have a problem with porn per say, it’s just every guy I’ve known well enough (i.e. have dated seriously or am related too) seems to be addicted to it.

Now my boyfriend has confessed that lately he can’t go a day without watching porn, and sometimes is watching it two or three times a day. He has been late to meet me several times and is having issues handing work in on time. He hasn’t said it, but I think porn is the distraction.

So I want your opinion, how much is too much? (Obviously my boy knows he has a problem and is going to work on it) And what should I say to him? I’m stuck between telling him he ought to give it up and just trying to be supportive with scaling back because I think that’s all he plans on doing. I just figure; if you can’t manage it in moderation, stay the hell away from it.

Beyond all that, I’m getting a little ticked off honestly. I wouldn’t mind once and while when I’m not around, but this is just insulting. I know he’s under a lot of stress right now, but come on.
Do NOT tell him to stop watching porn. Saying something like, "If you love me, you won't do it." is absurd, because every male on the planet watches porn. Most use it as a way to enhance pleasure during wank-sessions. However, most do it every so often, not thrice daily.
You do need to ask him why he does it so often. If you're in the point in your relationship where sex is not some great idealogical thing anymore, ask him if there's anything new he wants you to try.
He should definitely appreciate the fact that you're really level headed about this. If he doesn't, smack-a-bitch.

Thanks. I wouldn't ever tell him "do this if you love me" I know that's absolute nonsense.

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