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Alright. Well. I Found Out In The Beginning Of The Year That My One Friend Alicia Said Something Pretty Hurtful About Me To Our Other Friend Jasmine. Well, Alicia Said Something About My Weight && It Was Mean. I Didn't Bring It Up Then Because I Was Too Embarassed && Stuff. But, Should I Just Forget About It? Or Bring It Up Now (Not Like Get Mad, But Ask Her About It)? Or Is It Too Late && I Just Should Let It Go? I'll Rate && Give Feedback. Thanks! (link)
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First of all, if it bothers you very much, then you should probably talk to her about it. It will clear up the air. Your friendship will be affected if you have doubts about Alicia.
Think about it, though: What if you did confront Alicia and she just denies it? That would definitely make you happier, but it might cause a ruckus because Alicia really wants to find out who told you.
Some questions, though: Wasn't there a time when you thought badly of your friends? (You didn't necessarily have to share it with anybody, but maybe you were thinking it.) Wasn't there a time that you were so mad at them that you wanted to end the friendship? Wasn't there a time that you had a bad day and you just blamed someone to make yourself feel better?
Those aren't bad things to do. It's just a natural reaction of humans. We tend to be defensive when something bad happened to us.
Just think that you might cause an issue out of nothing. Maybe Alicia had a bad day and she just wanted to blow off some steam. You were her target at that time, but I'm sure she said mean things aobut other people, too, so you don't have to take it personally.
But, if it really bothers you and you can't be reassured by my former words, then you should talk about it. You know that your mind and heart won't be settled unless you talk about it.
If you think, though, that Alicia just fell under one of the categories I mentioned, then you should just let it go and treat her like the friend you think she is. If ever she really isn't a true friend, her meanness will come back to her, and at least you have a clear conscience.
I hope you make the right decision for yourself.
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