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Me and my boyfriend are going through really hard times right now. He keeps telling me how he's too busy to talk or too tired to even figure things out. And I feel like I've just been the one to deal with his bad moods lately. Last night I was explaining to him how hurt I was about the fact that I was crying and all he could talk about was how tired he was about it. He just said that he just can't deal with all of this, so I told him that he doesn't have to deal with me anymore and we hung up. I'm always the one to come back to him after a fight. So, this time I'm letting him make the move. He's called twice tonight and I didn't answer because I just think he needs more room.
So my questions are: If he really cares about me, will he still keep calling to prove that he does want this to work?
How will I know that he really does want this to work?
Should I give him time? because I really don't want to be hurt anymore by the fact that he doesn't want to talk lately.
I need some advice, I will rate to let you know what I think (link)
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You did the right thing by pulling away, and he is doing just what would be expected by now being afraid he's going to lose you and calling you back. However, the first thing guys try to do to win you back is to "use nice words and charm". This approach works with many girls and lets the guy off easy. If you're really going to make him work for it watch his actions not his words, and yes if he does care about you he will take action, either in the form of flowers and gifts or in altering his past actions to show you he's changed. If he doesn't do this he wasn't invested that much in the relationshi9p or didn't care enough. However, truthfully, if you feel he's a lost cause say goodbye and find someone who will respect you and treat you right. Good luck!
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Rating: 5
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Thank you. I have been pulled in by the nice words and charm and it's time that it's changed. I have to let him know that I'm not being treated in a way of someone for him to just get upset with just because his life may be going downhill right now. Again, thank you, I really needed and appreciated that.
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