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i've recently come to terms with the fact that i'm bi. a few of my friends know, but some of my closest ones don't. i think i'm ready to tell them, but i have no idea how to bring it up or how much to tell them. also, the reason they don't know yet is because these are the friends whose reactions i'm having the hardest time predicting (they're girls, by the way). i know that they love me and that if they're as mature as they seem and they realize we're living in the 21st century they should be able to handle it, but i really don't want them to be uncomfortable around me. i really want to be open with them and comfortable with myself and not hide anything, but i'd almost rather not tell them than risk our relationship changing. this is probably the typical cliche question, but i'm mostly asking how to go about telling them and where to stop rambling (ie: ...and it doesn't mean i check out every girl i see and no i don't like you and yes sleepovers are safe and...). eesh this is getting kind of long...just one more thing: two of the friends have a class with me at school, and in that class is the girl i happen to have a crush on. so part of my question is also whether i should just tell them i'm bi, or tell them i have a crush on a girl (i know you can figure out #1 from #2, but i don't know if it's better to give them a general idea or what).
thank you so much for the 5 hours of your time that you just gave reading this, and thanks in advance for your answer!
hey,
i agree with what you say. it's the 21st century, and if they really are your close friends then superficial stuff shouldnt matter. If you want some help, try bringing up bisexuality with them first in a subtle way and get their opinion on it if you dont already know. or sometimes just talking about it helps, try going to your school's guidance counselor or local therapist. i promise talking helps, or just talk to your friends who already know. And just because some of your friends know, doesnt mean you have to come out to all of them, dont do it unless you feel ready. There's no pressure.
Really hope i helped!
(Rating: 5) thanks for answering my bi question!