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Greetings,

I'm here and will attempt to answer questions that relate to either your SPIRITUALITY or your HEALTH. I consider myself to be a very spiritual human being, not religious as I don't follow an organized religion's dogma.
My heart is my good book and I attempt to live life from that point of view. I have lived long enough to have gained some wisdom and feel I could have something worthwhile to share.
I've used herbs and natural supplements and followed a healthy lifestyle since the early 90's, in fact it was herbs and herbal supplements and some lifestyle changes that saved my life.
As there have been some pretty wonderful people that have helped me along my life's journey, it's simply my turn to give back and if I can help someone here, I'm glad to do that. Hope to hear from you with your questions and if I help just one other person during my experience here, it will have been worth it. Have a very Happy&Health new year everyone, you all deserve it!

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I am 17 years old and have never had a bf. People in my senior class make fun of me behind my back because of this. I even heard one rumour that I was a lesbian. I'm not a lesbian, I do like guys but I'm really shy and most of the guys in my class are really immature and just want sex, not a meaningful relationship. I've also made the decision not to have sex, or make love until I get married. Some of the girls in my class have slept with over 14 guys, and act like it's no big deal. Sometimes I get so depressed I feel like crying. The fact that tomorrows Valentines day is just going to make me feel worse. Do things ever get any easier for girls like me? Or does it just get worse when I go to college and into the work force? I'm beginning to feel like I'm the only person left with values.

I want you to know how proud I am of you for taking the stand you have taken regarding 'sex'. I was pregnant when I graduated from highschool and in those days you married the father. It didn't work long. I wish I would have had the strength of character and the wisdom then that you are exampling today in your life and for your friends and acquaintances.

I hope your parents can appreciate this about you also... and I will be alone tomorrow on Valentine's Day also... so we can think of one another and send love to each other.

Let others make fun of you, that is there issue and not assuredly yours! Stand as an example of integrity and wisdom and purity and you will one day make a stand in the world of humanity. You surely will do lots of solid good for others and for your family and yourself.

You have every reason to celebrate yourself and your choices and I strongly suggest that take yourself out tomorrow in a sort of 'self celebration' of love and rejoice!! You have earnt it dear heart in every way by standing true to yourself, your beliefs and your values. I only wish I would have been much more like you than myself in my younger years.

I'm not complaining, I'm now living a very good life, but it's taken me a number of years to get to this point. All three of my adult children are great human beings and add to the world, so I am very thankful for that and it would appear that the three grandchildren are about to follow in their parents' footsteps.... so I guess I didn't mess up too bad.

So, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow you can bet on that.... and perhaps one day as you stand in the world as a famous scientist, politician, doctor, musician.... I can be just as proud of you as your family will be.... don't ever ever ever allow peer pressure to crush your dreams, your ideals, your true humanity. Let them play their games.... you dream your dreams alive dear heart for the sake of good earth and humanity. We need more great citizens like you.

Blessings in all ways to you,

salanda

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(Rating: 5) thankyou for giving me such an honest and thoughtful answer. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, and like you said be sending you love. It's so nice to know that some people understand why I feel the way I do. It really helps me to feel better about myself. Thankyou!
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