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This guy that I really like in my senior class has been dating this girl who behind his back makes fun of him. He is so in love with her, he'll buy her a dozen roses for no occasion and bring them to school for her. I also heard he spent hundreds of dollars on a bracelet for her birthday. I know what she's been saying behind his back because she's in my french class. The other girls wanted to see her new bracelet and she just rolled her eyes and said "this is the THIRD one he's bought me"!. She is such a superficial bitch. She's also said she's only with him because his family has money. She's also a bigot, I've heard her making derogatory comments about homosexuals and african americans. I also heard she's cheating on him. I don't know what he sees in her. She is very popular and pretty, but has the personality and kindness of a dead squid. He would be heartbroken if he knew what she said about him and did behind his back. He is such a nice guy, I feel sorry for him. Should I tell him or just keep my mouth shut? Or, before I forget, HIS friends make fun of him behind his back for how hard he's fallen for her.

It sad when this happens. I'm much older and I see it even in my own generation.

I guess I'd have to say that $$$$ just doesn't ever buy happiness, it can't. I guess this young man is doing what he's seen as an example by the adults in his own life.

I would venture to say, that she will tire of this and will dump him when she realizes she isn't happy. I feel for the young man, but I guess it's his lesson. Sad to say but true.

Surely he can feel that it's a 'one way' exchange and that it's not a real thing. But I'd guess he's seen this before someplace in his family, perhaps not with his parents but perhaps with aunts and uncles?

Do you know any of his male friends personally or know someone who does? Perhaps approaching them or having a friend of yours who might known someone in his camp would work. Some of them must know what's going on.

He's trying to 'buy' a girlfriend and just like in the movies, it's going to backfire, and he'll indeed get hurt, but we all do from time to time. And that's what makes us better and stronger human beings.

Now here's another approach. You said you really like him. Slowly become a friend for friendship sake. Let him know you're there for him and that he can talk openly with you. You'll think of way to edge yourself into his circle. Since he's in your senior class, use that as a way into his reality. Perhaps you need help with some homework from a class he may also have but at a different time...?

Just become a friend who is trustworthy, someone he can confide in and someone who won't judge his choices....because I'd say he's going to need that soon. I always got along better with male friends and female ones.... that's true even now many years later...

Or, now this is the big one.... you could go to this girl and let her know you know what she's doing. That it isn't going unnoticed and that sooner or later he's going to 'wake up' and discover it for himself. She'll be out of the picture if she doesn't fess up now....does she want that?

But I'm an aquarian and I've always boldly marched to my own drummer.... and I have no regrets!

Good luck, sounds like this is worth pursuing if for no other reason than gaining another friend!?

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