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I've been really good friends with this kid...Andy...for 5 years. We started having feelings for each other, and during the summer 2 years ago, we started dating. But at the end of the summer, I found out that we were moving, and so I moved to Ohio and he stayed in Michigan. We have really strong feelings for each other...we can't stop thinking about each other and we talk at least once a week on the phone. Whenenver I visit Michigan, we always hook up but of course, it can never last since I live out of state. Last year, he tried dating other people, but it never really worked cause I was the one he wanted. I also tried dating other people, and again, it wasn't the same. Our feelings for each other were just too strong. Lately, I've grown an interest in two guys...and I want to try dating them, but I don't want to hurt Andy. I could start dating other people...but the thing is--and i know how selfish this sounds--that would give Andy permission to date, and i don't want Andy to date other girls because there's a chance that he could feel just as strongly for them as he feels for me.

Things are so complicated--yet they could be so easy--but I'm not willing to let myself lose him. I could just stay with him...but what if we have to keep our relationshiop the way it is now? On the phone and on my few trips to Michigan?

Or if I do date, I could lose him to another girl.

I just love him too much to let him go.

Please help.

First question here is about your love. Is it that you love him or are in love with him? There is a differnce there and should think about it a little bit. You can't have it both ways. To be honest, if you are ready to move on to other guys, then you have to let him go and see if he's willing to stay and wait. You can't blame him for anything if he doens't though because he will feel hurt by what you are doing. If you feel that this, with Andy, isn't working right now then you have to let him know right away, anything else would just be, in a sense, playing with him. If you do want to keep him, then you have to put your felings for others aside. Neither situation is ideal, I do know that. You have to figure out what it is that you want with him and the other guys.

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