Well im in highschool, I run cross country and track, im in band, I love to give advice to people! I like to help people out when they have problems, but thats probably cause I know who they feel on some stuff. I'm not saying that i never need help I'm just saying that i like to help... Even know my advice may not be the best out there, i still like to give it out.
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I have a great girlfriend, one I've been going out for nearly three years now. We have never really fought or argued or been mad at each other or anything. We both have problems here and there with school and home, but small ones with each other. I do need advice on that though...See, my teacher once told me two years ago that most if not all guys will hear a girl tell her problem and then go to try and solve it, when really the girl just wanted him to listen and hear her out. Is that true? Sometimes I find myself doing that, even after thinking about what my teacher said. So my question is...does being a listener and just talking about a problem count just as much as trying to come up with a solution. For these kinds of problems I mean things like: yeah my friends did this to me; I'm not sure what to do about this sport; I feel a certain way when ___; etc. It does seem that half the time she tells me something, I right away try to come up with a solution or tell her what to do about it. It usually ends up falling right back in my face, or making her feel upset. Would you (girls) appreciate it more if the guy that was there...helped out with a solution, just listened to you about it and talked to you about it, or a little of each. Thanks, I would really appreciate it. (link)
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Okay. In my opinion a guy who can just sit down and listen to his girlfriend is a pretty good guy to be with. Because think about it if your girlfriend never listened to you and always tryed to solve your problems, would you two still be together? Probably not, you would have probably got tired of her trying to fix your problems.
well the same goes for girls we like it when a guy can listen to us. I mean yes it's nice when your boyfriend does give you his opinions on how he would do things once in a while but i dont think that I could stand it if my boyfriend told me what to do 24/7.
A little of each is ok, but I would stick to more listening than solving. Because she probably just wants you to listen to her.
If I didnt help any than just go ask her if she wants you to listen more or solve her problems.
Lotz-o-Luv~Kay
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never thought of it that way, thanks a lot
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