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Greetings,

I'm here and will attempt to answer questions that relate to either your SPIRITUALITY or your HEALTH. I consider myself to be a very spiritual human being, not religious as I don't follow an organized religion's dogma.
My heart is my good book and I attempt to live life from that point of view. I have lived long enough to have gained some wisdom and feel I could have something worthwhile to share.
I've used herbs and natural supplements and followed a healthy lifestyle since the early 90's, in fact it was herbs and herbal supplements and some lifestyle changes that saved my life.
As there have been some pretty wonderful people that have helped me along my life's journey, it's simply my turn to give back and if I can help someone here, I'm glad to do that. Hope to hear from you with your questions and if I help just one other person during my experience here, it will have been worth it. Have a very Happy&Health new year everyone, you all deserve it!

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Ok, me and my step mom dont "exactly" get along, she gets all pissed off at me because i forget to make my bed, or leave somthing on the floor (in my room) and she leaves all these stupid little notes saying "do this do that, we all live in the same house you know!!" and im trying my best to not yell back at her... i mean she ALWAYS yells at me, and i usually end up crying after ive gone into my room away from her... but i need help, because i know one of these days i wont be able to hold back and ill end up screaming at her... and thats definetally not like me unless i get over the top pissed off!! ill rate 5s to any1 who can help!

13/f

signed,
hoplessly traped

Hi.... Well first let me say, talking about your issue with your stepmom is the first and biggest step you could take. I congratulate you!

I feel it would be good if you could see how each of us are simply a 'product' of our childhood years or the environment we were brought up in. For me, it was a Dad who was always putting me down, verbally and emotionally. It scarred me for years until I realized he no longer had power over me. Today, at the age of 61(it's my bd today!), I realize I have to forgive him and move on with my life or I won't have one very much worth living.

So, your stepmom is simply trying to control you, because when she was small, someone(s) did that to her. She of course doesn't see it that way, but you can! So when she rants and raves, simply smile at her and go with however she wishes it..... for now and usually a smile disarms the most intense anger or manipulative intention. I know it's not easy.... just see her as an adult child reeling in the dysfunction that she grew up in.

Tell her you love her, afterall I believe we are here to love each other, and will do your best to please her. Let her know you are always doing your best.... how can she ask more of you? Let her know you appreciate what she does for your family and for you. Offer her little surprises, just for no reason.... love is a wonderful tool.

I know the situation isn't good....sometimes it's not good with one's real parents either. But I can you're strong and you will get through it..... and when you've take all you can take, take a few moments and take a walk or put on headphones and listen to some relaxing music.

And if you have a good friend at school, share some of this with him/her and ask that they keep it confidential. In turn, perhaps they will share some of their problems with you. I remember having a very good friend in school and it helped me alot.

If you want you can email me.... my name is Salanda and my email is salanda@localnet.com... good luck to you! And please remember, you are a beautiful person or spirit on earth and you came to earth to fulfill and purpose..... just learn to explore yourself and life and look for the signs that will guide your way to fulfilling your soul's mission to earth! Have a really great new year!

Salanda
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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much salanda! Your advice was the best ive heard out of all the others, and your advice is really helping me! thank you so much, & i hope your birthday is a fantastic one!!! ^.^
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