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Dear Advicenators-
This year one of my best friends, let's call her amanda, went into highschool. See, I was always more popular and had more friends then her. (I'm in 8th grade now)And when she was in middle school, let's say she wasn't the coolest of the bunch. We were best friends until I was in 7th grade and she was in 8th. See, then I started hanging out with my friends from school on the weekends; and me and amanda's sleepovers every friday and saturday turned into once or twice hour hang outs once a month. Yet, sure enough, when school was out, we became close again, adn real tight. Now she went into highschool and started to make new friends, when i was still in middle school. She got a new boyfriend, got a new best friend, with a new life. Ever since school started we hardly ever hang out. And now, 5 months later, she straight up tells me she doesn't want to be that close anymore and really doesn't want to be friends. Now, at first I understood she was frustrated, I didn't think she was serious. But now i really now she is dead serious. AND IT KILLS ME! I want to cry so much and pour out tears, and to know it doesn't effect her at all, and she can let go such a great friendship like that, just crushes me. Like, think of your of that one friend were you feel %100 completely comfortable wiht adn can tell anything. WE were tight, when the two of us got together we had so much fun. And now she wants to blwo it all away, and means it! But i don't know what it is! Is it her getting back at me from when I started hanging out with my school friends more, or does she just want to move on with her life and forget me. Like rigth now, we had this huge fight adn she acted liek she did't even care about me, and afterwards her away message was "hanging wiht Bridget watchign American Pie, haha"(her new best friend. When i thik over all are memories I want to cry out my heart knowing that I can never have them again with her. i don't know what to do. Should I make the first step and start trying to be friends with her again. the thing is she really meant when she said she doesn't want us to talk anymore or hang out, or even become friends again! What should I do, I'm devistaited!Thank-you :( (link)
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i know this hurts, and is a hard time to loose a best friend. when i was younger my best freind was a grade up from me as well,wed been tight all thrugh childhood are moms were freinds, even our grandmas were friends(still are lol) when she went to middle school and then highschool seperate from me as i was always a class behind, we lost touch, she still lived near me, but we dident have much in common,and pretty much stopped seeing each other. we both made new friends, and had new intrests. i spent about 4 years never seeing her or just saying whats up when id see her, but.. when i turned 17 and she finished school,we just started talking agan out of the blue,weve now been best friends for over 5 years. the kind you trust with everything, because shes known you forever, the point to all my babbling, is that alot of times friends with even small age differences go thier seperate ways for awhile.i believe you and amanda will be friends again, if you dont hold a grudge, try to respect you prolly have different intrests right now. next time you talk to her, just let her know you understand that the age thing puts you in different circles and that youll always be there for her when shes ready.leave it at that. but dont sit around depressed get out there and enjoy the little break and make new friends.enjoy your life and try to have fun. if shes really your friend shell come around after she gets her fill of the high school drama. try to look at this seperation, as just another experience you two will share and laugh about later.srry for length. good luck!
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