Hi, I'm a young 50 year old father of three (two sons one 5 and one 21, and a daughter of 31) from Romford, England. I have a lot of experience of life from both the good and bad sides, the good side when I was singing in bands almost every night and my life was one long party, and the bad side having to admit I'm an alcoholic and doing a hard rehab/detox programme (sober for 10 years now) then having a heart attack and a broken marriage to deal with. I am now in a good place in my own mind and want to help others as much as I am able to.
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Location: Romford, London, England
Occupation: Unemployed
Age: 50
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Ok guys, Im somewhat at a loss. Most questions on this website tend to be at least somewhat mundane. Stuff that, while it could be very important to the poster, isnt life threatening or seriously life altering.
However, every once in a while, we come to the ones that ask a question about something where they stand to screw either their own, someone elses, or both lives.
Case in point, Ive just answered the second question from a girl who is 16 and wants to get pregnant when shes single, living at home, and basically incapable of supporting herself, much less a baby.
Now, this is not the only example, just a very recent one. Worst of all, many of the questioners in these cases are completely opposed to opposing points of view. They are determined that theirs is the right course of action, and are determined to screw themselves and others in the process.
So, my question to the masses, is does anyone know how to get through to idiots like this? Does anyone even think its possible? Im asking mostly those 18 and up, anyone can respond but Im looking for viewpoints from people who are at least looking back at the high school perspective, not in the throes of it.
Thanks, and sorry for length.
-The Spirit Fox (link)
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I think that sometimes you just have to accept that some people are just going to do things their way whatever anyone else says or thinks, now sometimes this isn't a bad thing as it is impossible to be absolutely 100 percent sure of how things will work out for them but on the whole if it is obvious to most people that something isn't really a good idea and the person involved won't listen then you just have to accept that whatever you say it won't make any difference. I also think that sometimes people already have an answer to a problem in their heads and the reason they ask others is to confirm that what they are going to do anyway is the right thing, of course if you say that it isn't they then get pissed off and do what they were going to do anyway. I have always been of the opinion that if someone is determined to screw up their life they will, and you might stop them this time by persueding them not to take an obviously bad route but eventually they will find a way to screw it up, so you start to ask yourself 'what's the point?' and to be honest I don't know but I do think that people with more insight or experience or information or whatever you want to call it, need to keep trying to help those that ask because if they don't more people will screw up more of the time.
I know this is all just the way I veiw things and others may not agree and that's their right.
Don't give up on everyone just because sometimes people make you feel dispirited.
All the best
Kizlode.
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Thanks. Id leave a more lengthy reply, but my head is deep sixed for the evening.
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