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When I get really upset I sometimes tend to cut myself.....on my rist. Lately I have been really sad and have been crying myself to sleep almost every night. I cut myself and I don't know why. Its like it takes away the pain of everything else and replaces it with the pain of cutting my rist. Its not like i'm trying to kill myself or anything, it just seems to kind of.....calm me down. My friends can't stand it when I do that, but its like I can't stop. I know I need to though. Is there any way you can help me? (link)
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I can't say why you actually cut. It really sounds like that last thing you want from it is attention, so my guess is that there's something not quite balanced or clicked in your brain chemicals. Don't get me wrong, if it's something in your head, it's NOT YOUR FAULT so don't blame yourself. I would advise telling your parents, or an adult you trust, someone from church, school, somewhere. They should be able to get you the right kind of help.
Yes, cutting can take the pain of the world away because it causes your body to release natural painkillers to deal with the pain of the cut. There are probably other chemicals released when you do that to yourself but I'm not an expert so I don't know the details.
You said that it's when you get upset that you seem to start cutting...some people use forms of self injury as a way to deal with stress. Even though it's more common than people might think, it's not a healthy way to deal with stress. Someone with training in that field can help you find a way that will work for you to deal with stress.
Now, about it hurting your friends. Remember when you do it that it probably hurts them more than they let on. They probably care about you a lot and want you to be okay and cutting often scares people, since it is a warning sign of suicidal behavior. Even if you're not planning/trying to kill yourself, the fact that it's a warning sign freaks people out. If you can, put yourself in their place, you see a friend cutting. Think about how you would feel, your reactions. They probably have a lot of the same ones.
The best advice I can offer on stopping is a) get help if possible (ASAP) and b) when you cut, or before you start, think about your friends.
Good luck.
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