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I'm a 19 yr old mainly agnostic ex philosophy student with rather strong views about a lot of things. I'm very liberal, love the diversity I live in in London and hate that America hasn't separated church from state.
I'm engaged to the love of my life, but agree it is a little bizarre to get engaged at 18.
I'm confident, quite literally crazy, caring and crippled. My manual wheelchair is called Sebastian and he gets scared when he goes too fast, my electric is called Jermaine (after the Flight of the Conchords character) and he really does not like ice.
I can read Braille and I know basic sign language because I believe everyone should be given equal chances. I dislike it that money doesn't have Braille on it.
I'll do my best to help out with your situations, I've been in and seen many a family conflict, I've had my fair share or love life crises, I've had about every illness known to man (could tell you a lot of amusing stories about psychiatric wards) and I'm "The Queen of Hair Dye" so hopefully I'll have some idea about advice. If it looks like I don't give lots of advice, it's because I only advise on things I know about. I also detest poor spelling and grammar so although having dyslexia makes me a bit hypocritical about this.

advice

I am in ninth grade. I am doing ok in school, like A's, B's and a few C's, but my parents aren't happy. At all. They think that a B- is, and I quote, "terrible". Well, my mom mostly. She thinks that if I have time to do all the internet activity I do, then I sooo have time to do schoolwork. Like, schoolwork is the most important and excited thing in the world, right?? UGH. She was giving me THE hardest time about it. Saying that some of the A-'s---A-'s!!!---were alllmost B+, and is that good enough for my mom?? Nooooo. Just cuz she didn't finish college and only went to Santa Monica and Stern, and wants me and my sisters to be perfect students. She seriously said that I should've done the extra credit in one of my history classes b/c I should if I have the opportunity, even though I'm getting an A in that class. PLEASE. I mean, I'd much rather be having fun. My motto is to live my life to the fullest, while succeeding as well as you can. I DO NOT believe that school comes first, and no matter how hard I try to tell my mom this, she says that it's life, and I have to deal. I even reasoned---didn't argue, I wasn't nasty, I REASONED---w/ her, but her view of an opinion is "giving her lip". Just b/c I am her kid, I have to agree w/ her outlooks. And my sister is NOT helping. She does well in school, and when I even BOTHER to complain about my mom to her, she agrees w/ her. And my mom doesn't even really appreciate the things I already CAN do. Like play guitar, figure things out nice and fast w/o instruction manuals, juggle, write stories and songs, and other stuff. She just cares that I am not getting A+'s ("We feel that you are capable, and you're not showing us that"---well, maybe I'm NOT capable after all!!!), not getting together w/ every person in my class (they all hang out w/ boys!! which i am not allowed to do!!), and not setting my goal as getting A+'s and going to an IV league school. IT. DRIVES. ME. INSANE. There is this rocker chick inside me wanting to come out, but of course, I am forced to be an almost-prep b/c the only clean music is pop. Thank G-D that Jesse McCartney is good (please don't comment on that). Well, I have to go, but PLEEASE advise and don't skip, and don't say to talk. It doesn't work. (I WILL RATE 5 IF U CAN ANSWER THIS AT ALL.)

I completely understand this feeling, however you cant let yourself be angry about it.

Say to your mum at a quiet time that you think they put too much pressure on you and that you don't think its fair. Avoid saying things like 'School isnt the most important thing' because, to be perfectly honest, especialy if you are in an important year, School should be one of the most important things to you because there will be loads more time for socialising at other times but theres only going to be one shot at your education. And Im not saying that you shouldnt have a social life, just have one in moderation. Show your parents you are being responsible but let them know that if you really do think you dont have the ability, you dont.

Take care xx

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(Rating: 5) I've tried, trust me. Also, that's the thing. I sort of DO have the ability, but I just think that I am doing enough and that I shouldn't have to work my ass off (excuse me) if I think I'm doing just fine. Thanks for the help though. MUCH appreciated. :) ♥
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