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Q: 15/sophmore/female.

I have been with my boyfriend since feb. 2nd 2004. yes, 2004, not a typo. He has always gotten, uneasy (i guess thats the word) when i talk to or hang out with other guys. Me and my boyfriend go to different schools. Well I talk to this guy from my summer job, and he is 21, and in college. My boyfriend is 17, and i am 15. And my boyfriend is on drumline, and so I am so used to him not getting home until 6:00. I get home around 3:30. well, he doesnt have drumline anymore, so he was home today. and i didnt call him. so when I did, he didnt sounded, not mad, but upset, i cant describe it. and he asked if i was online, and i said yes. and then he asked if i was "talking to that twenty year old " and i said yes, and i was talking to Elise too. And he said "I'll call you later" and i asked why. and then i cant remeber the rest, it was really short, and then he hung up. and didnt say bye. so i called back, no answer. i called his cell, no answer, so i texted him saying that im sorry and that he cant get mad at me for talking with my friends and that i love him (being my boyfriend) in a way that i could never love anyone else.

My boyfriend and i do have silly fights alot. but this one is stupid, i mean, this guy is 6years older than me. I would never date him. He is a good friend,sorta like a brother to me.

did i do anything wrong?
My boyfriend and i just got over the whole "cant hug the opposite sex" thing. he used to get upset when i did that. keep that in mind.

What should I do? What should i say? should i call my boyfriend? text him?

any advice is welcome.
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-Kelsey-

He's pretty insecure and is scared of losing you to this other guy which is I guess understandable because I bet he thinks you are pretty great and most guys would like you. That said, his reaction is a bit extreme. Its one thing to be a little jealous, but this boarders on possessive. Send him an email telling him how you feel and that you would never date that guy and that you care about him. Send him and then let him get back to you. He needs to cool down a bit and try and get some perspective. Try and make some plans just the two of you this weekend and show him that you only have eyes for him. If this blows up into something bigger than he has maybe some other issues that you guys need to deal with, but i think this will blow over. good luck and keep me posted.