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Okay... I figured out why he hasn't tried contacting me. (It is by far the worst reason possible.) I finally found a number through directory assistance, called it, and a woman answered. I was so shocked. I made up some crap about how I was from the hotel he stayed in and he had left his hat (the one he had given to me) and asked her if she wanted us to ship it back. It was the correct number because she said she'd leave him the message and have him call me back. She even knew which hat I was talking about.
After that, I did some research on the internet with the number I found. I am 99% positive HE IS MARRIED and has TWO KIDS. He lied to me, told me he was single. He had told me when we were together that his ex-girlfriend (what he really meant was his wife) had written him a letter while he was in Iraq telling him basically "cya, can't take it anymore." So I think maybe the marriage is faltering/on shakey ground, especially since he is about to be deployed soon and is wondering if she will leave him again.
HOWEVER, I know this is no excuse to lie to me and does not give him a reason to cheat on her. I have NO SYMPATHY for him. I am so glad I found this little bit of info out now, instead of wasting my heart on him. And he told me he didn't have any secrets. (Hmph!)
But I am soooooo hurt. Especially since I broke up with my previous boyfriend because of all the lies he told. Now this. Believe me, it's going to be very very hard for me to ever trust a man again. I feel like such a fool.
I'm going to send the hat back. I'm so angry right now. Maybe I'll send it back in shreds. I feel like screaming in his face or telling his wife what a &%*#%*$ he is. I feel like crying but right now I'm too much in shock to do so. I'm so stupid, but I suppose this experience will make me a wiser and stronger person... or at least an old maid.
Why do guys lie? Will I ever find someone who is not going to lie to me? Even if I find the greatest man in the world, will I screw it up because I'll be paranoid that he is lying to me? How do I deal with all this heartbreak? (link)
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♥Well first off guys are just like that and you have to forget about that skeez. He is a jerk and you deserve better. Guys are lying perverted sons of a bitches!!! lol. If a guy makes you cry he is not worth your time.
♥Send the cap back and with it write a special little not in it. The note should contain
your feelings and every thought that you have felt while crying those pointless tears. Make sure to tell him that you weren't anything to him, but a small fling that wouldn't last in heavens words.
♥You have to stay strong by keeping things together and not crying as much. Make sure to find other fun and trustful guys to hang out. I know its hard to trust again but you have to. Make yourself enjoy one others company and soon it will come natural to you. I really hope I helped
♥Glam
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Thank you. However, I've decided not to tell for some reasons. 1. He knows where I live. What if I break up his marriage and family and he goes psycho and goes after me? Or what if she's a psycho and blames me for everything? I need to look after myself first. 2. I don't want to hurt the wife like that. Maybe she knows but hasn't come to terms with it yet. And if she doesn't know, if he's doing it enough, she's eventually figure it out on her own, and when she does, she can place all the blame on him, instead of pinning it on me. 3. Maybe he truly was a good guy who realized he made a big mistake, and I don't want to break up a marriage because of that. There are some more reasons, but I think those are the most important ones.
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