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I met someone who was only in my hometown for a week, and we kissed, talked, and really connected. I seriously fell for him.
Of course, some people will think we were only together as rebounds, because he lost a friend and I was getting out of a serious relationship with someone. Regardless, he made me feel happy and alive.
I gave him my email address and phone number, he gave me his favorite hat. It's been over a week, and I have not heard from him. Should I just forget him, or make an effort to contact him?
I've been searching for a phone number/email but my search so far has come up fruitless. I don't know what to do. He's in the military and I would just love to talk to him before he has to go to Iraq again. However, I don't want to completely freak him out and seem "stalkerish." So even if I found a number, I don't know if I'd have the guts to call it.
It worries me that he hasn't tried contacting me yet. Maybe he thinks that since I was going through a lot that he should just back off. Maybe he felt nothing for me and really is a jerk. I don't know. Should I be patient, or make a move?
I am trying to forget about him and trying not to make the relationship anymore than what it was. It's hard because I keep thinking about him. I just need to tell him thanks (the reason is very personal and complicated so I don't want to go into detail.) Maybe if I could just tell him that, then I could move on. But for now, I feel like I have something I seriously need to get off my chest and it's driving me insane not being about to explain things!!
What you really have to ask yourself is , do you think that he is worth contacting and do you think that you'll have any regrets if you don't contact him. I think you should. Don't be afraid to take a risk. And if he thinks that you're the "stalkerish" type, then obviously you could try to make him understand in a clear way(and in a way that won't freak him out) that you're not. And if he continues to think it, then it's just not meant to be. Then you move on and find someone else. If you can't forget about him, then he definitely means something to you. And it's up to you to find out what that something means . Contact the man. Throw away fear. After all, is he worth it. He'll stay on your mind. And if you're not going to contact him, you might as well move on and forget him . And if you say to yourself I could've, I should've. That won't matter because you didn't . I think you should go for it because you will feel a lot better about things.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. Just having someone say "go for it" really eases my mind.