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um....ok im 14 and im pregnant! my mom keeps on asking who the dad is but i dont even know....ive had sex 3 times and with 2 different guys...the first one was some guy i met on the internet about 24 AND the other guy i had sex with twice and he is 49 yrs old....i know there is tests to figure it out....but i dont know where to get that...at a hospital i guess....how do i tell my mom who the guy is anyway is what im asking...its either a 24 yr old or a 49 yr old....what should i do!!!!!???? please help... i will rate with anything (link)
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First, I would like to say that I am not going to judge you and that I am soo sorry that two GROWN MEN took advantge of you in the sense that they should have known better than to have sex with a girl your age. I must tell you that if your mother already knows you are pregnant, she is eventually going to have to know who did this to you for you will need MUCH child support to help you raise this child. Also, no matter how old the guys are, YOUR CHILD needs to come first and deserves to know who it's father is. That is only fair. You decided to have sex with these two men and that is over with, but your child didn't ask to be put in this situation. When your baby is born, more than likely you will be living with your mother and it will be the two of you raising it, so your mother has a right to know as well who is the father for she is the one taking on his role in raising HIS child. I know you are scared but (and I donlt mean to sound harsh)if you were grown enough to have sex with these men, then you are grown up enough to handle the situation with your mother. The sooner you tell her, the sooner the initial shock will wear off and you both can move forward. She (your mother) will also be the one who will more than likely help you obtain any legal help you may need as well as the one you will cry to when times get too hard raising your child. GOOD LUCK!!!
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Rating: 5
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thanks...but i wanted to have sex with them....actually once is suggested it to the one
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