BY no means am I always right or know what to do. However, I will tell you what I would do in your situation and what I know to be the most honest and helpful advice that I can give.
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ive lived with my grandparents for 13 years and just a few months ago i moved in with my mom and her boyfriend. i REALLY miss living with my grandparents and i feel like my moms trying to take me away from them. sometimes ill ask my mom if i can stay the night with my grandparents and she says no. we fight and argue every single night and im so sick and tired of it. i cry myself to sleep everynight because of her and her boyfriend. her b/f is so rude to me too. i try to talk to her about this but every time i try we get in another argument. i talk to my grandparents about it and they undersatnd but they dont know what to do. i just cant stand living with my mom and her boyfriend. if anyone can tell me what i can do besides talk to my mom please help me. (link)
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You are 13 years old, that is old enough for any court to listen to you and place you where you want to live. If your mother's boyfriend is creating a hostile environment for you then make a record of it. Whenever there is a fight, and he is out of line, write it down, keep a diary. DO NOT LET ANYONE KNOW ABOUT THE DIARY. Anything you write down needs to be the truth, never lie, it will ruin your chances for the court to believe you. Your diary can admitted into court as evidence. You need to try proving that your mom is putting her boyfriends needs before yours. This will show neglect Please be careful not to instigate anything. What state is the house in, messy, neat? Does your mom do drugs? Does she leave them laying around? When you have recorded a couple of months worth of fights take a walk to the family court. Tell them you need public representation to protect you from your mother, use the words PRO BONO (Boe-know) That means FREE.
Your grandparents can go with you and testify to the conversation that you have when you call them crying about how you are being treated. How does your sister feel bout your mom? Since she gets all the attention she may like your mom and it would be a mistake to talk to her about anything you plan on doing. Eight year olds tend to tell on everyone. Keep your diary and your intentions secret. Go on with your daily life like you are now. Just keep track of everything. If you can get photos of the way your mom keeps house or if she leaves dangerous things lying around, or if there is any physical abuse on her part or her boyfriends part. You have to prove beyond reasonable doubt that you are in danger of physical or mental abuse. You have to prove that living there will bring you harm.
Unfortunately, if you cannot prove any of this then you will have to go another route. You say that your grandparents have raised you, right? Why did your grandparents raise you? What made your mom absent? Maybe whatever it is, she is still doing it. You could try and say taking you from the people that raised you is emotionally crippling and you are depressed. I hope that my advice is useful, just remember, NEVER LIE or try to plant fake evidence, this will only make it worse for you. Keep me posted, I am here anytime you need me. GOOD LUCK.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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thank you so0o much for your advive ill try that but i dont know about going to court long story but thanks so0o0 much i will keep a diary though
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