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Q: Okay, so I'm in a bit of a weird situation. I haven't been in this situation since ninth grade, and I'm in college.
So my friend likes this guy...and this guy likes me...
Where I am is, I'm TRYING actively not to like this guy because I don't want my friend to get hurt, but he's talking to me and hanging out with me more and more, and I feel like I'm losing my battle.
We started hanging out because he and I have one HECK of a lot in common - like, it's scary. We all went out once and we ordered the same thing...in unison. Lol...
Yeeeeeeah.
So, um. I guess my question is, what do I do? My friend likes him, and he likes me, and I hate to admit it, but I'm starting to kind of like him, too.
I won't tell her I like him because, for one thing, I teased her ENDLESSLY about liking him, and I'd never hear the end of it. For another thing, that would cause such awkward friendship crap...I have, however, kind of half admitted to him that I'm starting to kinda like him...
So help me out, guys!
You know.... this is a tough situation. I think you should go for him. I do know someone who dated someone whose friend was interested in the same guy: My mom; to my Dad over 30 years ago. And they are still married. I don't think the girl was too thrilled about it, but clearly the two of them were meant to be.
Whether or not you will end up with this guy forever is besides the point, but sometimes you owe it to yourself to see what the possibilities are.
I think you should be honest with your friend about your feelings. It will probably affect your friendship, but if you are sensitive enough to her feelings and do it in a way that isn't obnoxious or boastful, hopefully in time things between you two will be ok.
Good luck and keep me posted.

Thanks =)...funny thing is, she's on here and she figured out it was me...she laughed at me about it, lol.

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