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Q: okay, well just recently i entered highschool. i love it every way. but the only problem is that my friends, my old ones from middle school. they bareally talk to me. we all used to hangout every single weekend. and now they are all interested about being popular and hanging out with the right croud. and it gets me really upset because they all hangout together and im home alone and they dont even ask me to hangout when they know im sitting home all alone. my best friend still even hangs out with them and i ask her to hangout and shes like i cant im sorry and this is an every weekend thing.

I'm sorry, that is such a terrible to have happen to you, but its not uncommon. People when they enter high school get caught up in being popular and try to have new images. There is no reason why you have to sit around alone all weekend waiting for these so-called friends to call you. The best thing about high school is that there are a lot more people and there are a lot more activities to join. I would say try and do that and try and make some new friends in the process, ones that value you and want to spend time with you...
As for your best friend, I would call her and tell her your feelings and tell her that you miss seeing her. Hopefully you two can get together and talk it out.
This may not be the easiest time for you, I've been through it. Its lonely and full of self-doubt, but you are only hurting yourself the more you stay home and not try to branch out and meet new people. I bet you'd be surprised how many people in your grade are in similar positions and would love to hang out with you.
Good luck and keep me posted.