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Q: I have changed a lot ever since my dad died. I have become sad. Like not just sad, but like "depressed" I don't know if I am, but I'm afraid that I am. I don't want to get out of bed in the morning and have to push myself to even sit by my friends. When I am with my friends I try to laugh and smile to make it so that they don't have to see me this way, but I can't do it much longer. My grades are dropping and my parents don't suspect anything yet. I don't want them to know, they don't really understand. I don't feel comfortable talking to my mom because she cries every time i talk about him, and my step dad... well I just can't talk to him. I don't like my councilor, besides, he would talk to my mom and step dad. I can't talk to my grandmas or aunts, I just don't know what to say. My boyfriend would understand, but we aren't that far in the relatiopnship. So I don't know if he would be comfortable, it might scare him away. My father died 3 years ago, I don't know why it is just starting to bug me now. My whole life is confusing! Can you help with any of it? thanks for whatever you can do in advance!
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I'm so sorry about your dad and how you are feeling. I think this is pretty serious what's going on. I think what is probably making matters worse is the fact that you feel that you can't talk to anyone and that is making you feel more alone.
I know that your mom gets upset each time you talk about him, but with the way you feel and what is going on at school she needs to know regardless of if you think it will upset her or not. But if you feel like you can't have a one on one discussion with her, talk to one of your favorite teachers, or counselors or even your best friend's mom first then you all maybe can talk together.
I know you may not want to hear this, but you may be suffering from depression. That is not to say there is something wrong with you or that you are crazy... that isn't the case at all. Its natural to feel like this and its also hard when it feels like its been so long and you should be 'over it' by now. But a person is going to feel how he or she is going to feel and there is no time line. But admitting to your feelings and getting help is a good first step.
Good luck and keep me posted. I do hope everything works out for you.
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I will try to stay in touch. Thank you. you really made scense! I'm going to tell my boyfriend first. He needs to know. thank you again
*Running*
P.s.
that is my nickname on this sight. LOL so i thought I could use it every where.
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Just some common sense advice in this crazy messed up world.
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Gender: Female Location: New York, NY Member Since: October 8, 2005 Answers: 156 Last Update: February 9, 2006 Visitors: 12076
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