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Q: ok so here i go when i saw this boy at school for the first time i thought i really liked him lets call him james and then i met another boy in school called jake and he told me he likes me loads and he always tells me he loves me so much.he follows me around in school. James does not say that!he just says thinking of u ect i hung out with jake and i began to like him so much!!! we had such a laugh when he took me home.thing is he is muslim i am christan my mum would never let me go out with him she would probably aprove of james but not jake. ok and here comes the problem my friend told me she likes Jake! I was so upset i wanted to scream at her shes kinda mucked up everything. i told jake and hes like your making it up. I am not... what do i do now? please advice me also i think i like them both im 17/f thank u
well, first off you need to ask Jake why he doesnt believe you. you probably dont want to get in a serious relationship w/ somebody who isnt going to trust you. second, ask your mum what's wrong with him being Muslim. i had to do this w/ my mum(my b/f is hindu). you should tell her that he is a really good person and his religion is what it is. just as you were (i assume) born and raised Christian, and you had no say in your religion(up until you were confirmed), he was born Mumslim, and its not his fault. i am not sure how your mum would react to what i have to say next though, so if she would freak out and you would get in trouble, leave this part out: you might want to ask her why, if she is christian she is so quick to judge others. after all, it says in the bible, "Do not judge, or you too will be judged...Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your onw eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."(Matthew 6:7:1-5). and thirdly, if you are in a relationship with Jake, then your friend should respect that and if she doesnt, you probably dont want to be friends with her. but if you and Jake arent in a relationship(yet)then she is NOT doing anything wrong. if Jake is such a great guy, then lots of girls are bound to like him. i hope this helps, and you really should talk to your mum about this.

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