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Gender: Male
Age: 18
AIM: bsphil101
Member Since: October 5, 2005
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Last Update: April 30, 2006
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okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there
its not like i want to i do but its like this urge that wont go away its all i cant think about. and watching my niece doesnt help it makes me want 1 of my own more.
i know i am emotional stable and if i did get pregnant my family would help me support this child but i know its not how i was raised and there arent alot of teen pregnancies in my more upscale neighborhood but i feel like i cant live without having a child
i also do babysit and work with children (link)
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Unless you want your future to end when you have a child at 16/17 years of age, you should really think about doing the following things before having a child:
-Finish high school
-Finish any kind of higher education (college, technical school, certificates and other qualifications, etc.)
-Find a career
-Hold a job in or related to that career
-Have enough financial freedom where you can live on your own without any help from your parents whatsoever
Once you can say you've done all that, THEN think about having children.
Having a child before graduating high school is a terrible idea. It's not even "shooting yourself in the foot," but more like "dismembering both of your feet at the shin."
I say this because my sister did something VERY similar. She even finished high school, but never made it to college because she got pregnant during the summer. She ended up having to marry. Lots of events have occured between then and now. How is she doing now?
She is a widow.
She has sold her house, and moved into multiple apartments over the course of a few years.
She has built up $15,000 in credit card debt.
She has left her two children alone with a babysitter for 5 days straight, which leads to the next point.
My parents are now the legal guardians of her two children.
Both of her kids are most likely going to be in slower classes for the rest of their lives because she was not around enough to nurture them when they were infants, and their brains did not develop as quickly as the average child, putting them a few years behind when they are only 5 and 3 years old.
She has been through many jobs, not being able to hold one for over 2 months.
She has been denied job positions from testing positive for cocaine in her system.
That being said, it's your life, so live how you please.
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thank you for the advice. although it helps i dont think i will end up like your sister. i don't have intentions of marrying the person just because we have a kid. im not into the drug scene. i would never have 2 kids before i get a good job and what not and i will continue education with a child even if it means community college
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