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Q: i'm a male, over 20, alone as hell.
i've never been able to get a girlfriend, i've tried and tried.
it seems like some crule cycle with me, meet a girl, ask her out a couple of times, start to like her and suspect she likes me too, try to be there for her and everything, try to move things up a notch, get the "you're such a good/nice/fabulous guy, i just wanna be friends" routine. Then i'll let go of how i feel as much as posible and try being "just friends", then she picks up the biggest jerk known to mankind and i get to sit across the table watching them make out (TORTURE, for those who care). then the arshole will proceed to cheat on her, she's crushed, i have to listen to all the bullshit and cheer her up, only to find her back with the butthead a week later, then a month later he'll cheat on her AGAIN...
by the third time this happens i simply fuck off, cause she's still won't go out with me and she keeps on going back to the total jerk and every month i have to be there for her.
WHAT THE FUCK, girls always tell me what a "NICE GUY" i am and the friendship crap, but why won't they go out with me.
I'm starting to accept that i'll die alone and bitter, and am starting to avoid woman totally.
I just don't know what to do, i'm really starting to lose it with woman.
I'm over 20 and i haven't even kissed a girl yet. WTF?!!!!!!!!!!!!
should i just kill myself now instead of becoming a full blown alcoholic?
should i try to like guy's more, and simply go gay?
at least i get alot of attention from gay guys trying to chat me up at bars, though im not gay. but women.......FUCK
i need advice please.
Most girls don't realize how much more the "Nice Guys" mean in real settled down life. A nice guy can give a girl a much better life than any "bad boy" ever could. The day will come when they all see this. There will be a time when they wished they had you instead of the one they chose. I have seen this happen so many times, that I know it is true. The bad boys always turn out bad, and mostly self-centered.

After reading what you have written, I can see that you are much more mature than the girls you are asking out. You could ask slightly older women out, or enjoy being single and have a good life while waiting on girls your age to mature and look for a good guy.

When a girl says that she wants to be friends, you can agree, but I suggest looking elsewhere. Don't torture yourself by watching her date a loser. You deserve better than that.

I hope this will help you, and I wish only the best for you in life. And may you meet a woman who loves you truly now and forever for the great person you are.

Ms Ask Me

thank you :)

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