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my bff (i will call her jane) & i have been bff for a while now. i like her (obviously) but sometimes she acts so insecure...like she wants to be friends with these other girls who obvioulsy aren't that nterested with her. sometimes when i am with her & feel bad, because she seems so focused on being frineds with them that i feel like she doesn't want to be hanging out with me. i know she likes me, but every once in a while she will do something on an important day (like dances, new years eve) & if i ask her if she wants to do something she will be like "no i can't, i am doing something with _____" and she won't even offer to have me come, which is something i always dowith my friends (unless they hate each other, which almost none do, they all get along). it makes me feel bad, but i also know that jane DOESN'T have that many friends, so i feel like she does it to sort of show off that she's doing something. ahould i say anything, i mean its not that serious & it only happens once in a while, but i feel sort of unwanted. we like never fight though, so i don't want to start anything!

Hey,
I'm so sorry. My friend kinda answered your question. Now here's a way you could work the problem out. I think maybe you should tell her that it it doesn't matter if you're friends with thos people that you want to be friends with. All that matters is that you do have friends that do care about you and love you as a person. Tell her not to worry about who she's not friends with. Tell her to just think about the friends she already has. Also, tell her how you feel whenever you ask her over and she says stuff like "No, I can't" and how much you miss how it use to be.

Good Luck,
Adivcegodesses2

P.S.I hope my advice helps your situation. Please write me back and tell me how it went.

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(Rating: 4) thanks for understanding, i am glad to know you can relate~ how would you suggest working it out though?
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