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My son is 17, but a very socially immature 17, acts more like he is 15. He is a senior in high school at a private Christian school, doing very well in most respects. My coworker is a little dramatic and often inappropriate at work, but a nice person and very generous. Her daughter is a freshman at the high school down the street from my son's school. Her daughter has had many emotional and behavior problems and recently was even hospitalized for more than a week while being treated with medication for bi polar and depression. The school is always calling my coworker about this girl, she is always in trouble. I have tried to be a good friend to this woman, we have cubicles right next to each other. Lately she has been on a kick that her daughter needs to date my son. I slid out of the homecoming dance only for her to try to arrange something further now and even asked for my son's e mail address and cell phone number so her daughter can get to know him. I am certain this is a bad idea. My coworker keeps pointing out that she chaperones all her daughter's activities and would take my son to a rock climbing wall facility and snow skiing and to plays and concerts. While I know my son would likely enjoy these activities, I doubt that having a mentally unstable girl thrust upon him by a very forceful mom who is overly involved in her daughter's life is a good choice. What should I say to get out of this? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I really don't want to be pushing my son into a relationship with this dramatic family, nor do I feel I should ever chose his dates.

Hi, I am a 13 year old so don't judge me yet.Well personally I give you your props for not wanting to choose your son's relationships.I think that your co-worker is a very nosey person and she should try to trust her daughter a little more. Maybe that's the reason she has the problem she has.But, you should try to talk to your son about the situation and see how he feels about it.If he thinks that he should go out with her let him take that chance, and just be there for him throught the whole relationship.

your friends,
Advicegodesses2

p.s.write back and tell me how i did for a 13 year old. bye!!

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(Rating: 4) My daughter is 14; I think you addressed this very well and I value your imput.
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