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A few weekends ago a bunch of us went gown to Galveston to celebrate a friend getting a full ride scholarship to college. Well, we were, of course, drinking.
I went home with my best friend and he was driving. We both had been drinking. Well, I didn't think anything of it and we were doing fine until we got into our neighborhood and we got into an accident...with a pole. Yeah, you're thinking omg a pole what could have happened. Well, he was speeding and we ended up pretty messed up and my best friend car was totaled. I broke my jaw and are, and cracked my skull.
Well, needless so say, our parents were PISSED. We both aren't allowed to do anything until the end of time.
Looking back at what happened now, I realize how irresponsible we were. And not only could we have killed ourselves but others out of stupidity. We're both DONE with drinking. I can barely even get into a car with out freaking out now.
There is still a huge problem with our parents; they have lost trust in us. Complete trust. I even over heard my mom telling my best friend that she has lost all respect for him as well. Neither one of us has any idea how we can help regain our parents trust. I for one value it and cannot live knowing that they dont trust me. Any one have any ideas? 17/f (link)
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I'm not very sure about this one but I'm going to throw out ideas so I hope they will help. You both need to get your parents, sit them down, and talk to them. You can both do it at the same time or different. I don't know if thats what you want to hear but thats what your going to have to do. You need to tell them you know what you did was stupid, wrong, and you are done drinking. Tell them that the accident is over and you can't go back into time. You need to make sure they KNOW all that. Also, if there is any group or club or ANYTHING in your school, church, or any place you go to, that you can sign up for a club about drinking and driving. I know one at my school is called SADD ( Students Against Destructive Decisions). It is mostly about drunk driving though. You could join something like that to prove you know the consequences and your serious that you know you were wrong. Also, you probably aren't allowed to go out because of all this but if you are make sure you are back ON TIME for anything that you go to. Maybe even before curfew or before the time set if possible. And you could help around the house or with dinner. Anything you can do to help out and make their lives easier.
By doing some of those things you could gain back some of their trust but it will take time. By doing all of those things continuously it will help alot. Don't just do it for a week and expect them to trust you fully. Not going to happen. Last thing.... if you had a kid that did that, what would you want them to do to gain back your trust?
I hope you and your friend have learned your lesson which I'm sure you have. Thank God you didn't hit anyone else or kill yourself. You can pray about that. =)
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thanks babe and yeah, no worries, we've learned our lesson we were pretty stupid
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