Member Since: September 22, 2005
Answers: 2
Last Update: September 24, 2005
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Ok, so this guy that I am in love with and yes I am positive it is love, well he is being a total jerk about it. He doesn't want to open up and share emotions, he never wants to be around me anymore, he has girls as friends, but tries to like hint that they are more... I'm not sure what he problem is, he has said "I love you too" or "I love you" to me before but lately we have been bickering because of stress on both parts and its just dramatic and we both hate it... I try to tell him how I feel, but he thinks that its stupid infatuation and virgin attachment (he was my first). I think else wise because of the way I am... its hard to express in words how it is. He makes me heart flutter fast but slow, Im thinking nonstop about him, I've stuck up for him with friends and family... Ive battled my best friend over him and now no longer am talking to her. Im starting to think he is not worth it, but I cant fight the feeling of how much I care for him. It keeps bringing me back to him. What should I do?? Just forget him and move on? Crack down and be a hardbutt and make him open up? Oh and forgot to mention, he is moving on Saturday, 3 1/2 hours away... my mother knows this and says its a challenge but one we can tackle if I love him.. so she is with me on this. Frankly my whole family is, they adore him. I'll rate high!!! I'm desperate for help and please I want some help from people with at least some expierence in this.. (link)
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I have been in the same shoes as you before. It's okay to love somebody and go through hard times with somebody, if they want you in return. You can't tackle the challenge of being with somebody just because YOU love him, he as to be willing to work at the relationship also. It's easy to say when you're not in the situation, but don't force yourself on him. A little nudging is okay, but when it gets to the point where you are the only one showing feelings, you have to let it go. I was in love with somebody before and he just didn't love me the same way. You know when it's the right person, because you won't have to work at trying to get him to open up. He'll just do it.
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Rating: 5
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Well, looks like I'll be moving on then because for the last month thats all I've been doing is nudging and if you say that its not okay to be the only one showing feelings then I'll stop... Thanks!
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