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ok well my boy friend worries me like he wont kiss me or hug me or anything but my friend whos been knowing him says he was like that in his last relationship what does this mean and what should i do should i make the first move? hlep
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It depends on how long you've been together and if he was all lovey/touchy in the beginning. Sometimes the new and shiny wears off and he won't be trying to sweet you up as much... other times it means his interest is gone and he doesn't have the courage to break up with you. If it's the first thing... relax, you have a committed relationship and don't have to worry if he's not holding your hand constantly. If it's the latter, then you should just ask straight out "do you want to see me anymore?" if he says no, hold your head up and walk away like a lady. it is the girls that freak and cry that give the rest a bad name and scare guys into not being straight up. Yep, it'll be hard, but don't let him have the final view of you all hysterical. and it'll take time but you WILL find someone you like even more and the feelings will be mutual.
I dated a guy 4 years ago that I just adored... he dumped me after about 3 months (just didn't show up for dinner). I walked away like a lady... and here it is 4 years later, we've been seeing eachother since May 1 and having a wonderful relationship. I still don't know where it's going, but if I had freaked and cried and stalked him we never would have had this second chance. And believe me, i cried for 2 weeks solid after the first time around. He's been the same way... very affectionate at first, not as much getting further into the relationship, but i know it's extra special when he gives me a hug or holds my hand. (boyfriend stuff is still the same as it was when I was your age - lol and I'm 40 now!) Good Luck.
PS...The old saying is true (but it's SO hard) if you love someone let them go... hold your head up high, because you are a lovely person... they may come back - amazingly mine did!!! and I was smitten and upset over him for the whole 4 years. now i am more relaxed and think "whatever" and we're having a great time! (we'll see for how long, but at least I'm getting a second chance with a great guy and I never thought that would ever happen.
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thank you so much and yes your right that those girls that freak give us a bad name iv never been one for freaking out over a guy at least not in front of him but i really like this guy im just scared ill lose him
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